Some narcissists have issues with food. These are usually caused by their sense of entitlement, need for control, attention seeking, and distorted self image.
As with most things, even foods are not off the table (sorry!) with narcissists’ disordered thinking. Have you noticed?
Here’s some common issues with narcissists and food, plus narcissists eating habits…
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Narcissist Food Control And Manipulation
Some narcissists use food to control and manipulate others. They may criticise someone’s eating habits, to shame and control them. Criticising the quantity and/or choice of food.
They may fat shame by constantly joking about their diet and weight. And of course if there’s any push back, they can backtrack and claim it was “just a joke”.
Taking things further, they may disguise abuse by controlling other peoples diets, under the guise of doing it for their own good. Even though this is psychologically unhealthy. And some narcissists go further, withholding food for punishment and reward, to gain control. But justify it as trying to help.
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Expect You To Like Food They Like
If a narcissist likes something, then they expect everyone to. They can’t fathom why someone would have different tastes to them.
Narcissists black and white thinking sees things as good or bad. They don’t seem to see the nuance. Or appreciate that some people are different to them. So if you don’t like something they like, they may take this as an insult.
In their mind you’re saying that something they like is bad. Which to them is an insult to their judgement.
Since narcissists have delusions of superiority, they believe their judgement is right. End of discussion. So if you don’t like food they like, then you’re either wrong, or being difficult.
This may lead to the narcissist obsessively trying to convince you to like something. Feeling it’s their duty to help you see the light. They also do this to seek confirmation that their superior choices are right.
So they may keep serving you food you don’t like. And keep berating you out of frustration, every time you refuse to eat it.
Food For Virtue Signalling
Some narcissists become vegan. Not because they care about animals, but to make a big show of how “caring” they are. Which is why they’re not shy of telling or showing people their “virtuous” eating habits.
Or they may adopt a clean diet to show how superior they are. After all, you don’t put low grade fuel in a Ferrari!
This is all well and good, but these narcissists often eat junk food in secret when no one’s looking. Because appearances are more important than reality.
Food For Attention Seeking
Some narcissists use food to stand out and gain attention. They may make a big deal about allergies and intolerances. Feeling a sense of superiority about their “special” diet.
Narcissists may boast about the special foods they eat. As if they were a top of the range sports car, requiring specialist fuel.
They may also get a kick out of inconveniencing people when they have to cater to their “special” needs. Because this makes them feel important, which feeds their delusions of superiority.
Not Respecting Your Food Choices
Some narcissists refuse to respect your food choices if you’re vegan, have allergies, or have religious preferences.
They may see it as a challenge to change your food choices. Even though it doesn’t affect them.
They may keep criticising you. Make it difficult, by buying foods they know you don’t eat. Or keep goading you into eating something they know you don’t want.
Some narcissists take a sinister route, and trick people into eating foods that are against their wishes. For example, they may lie about the ingredients so a vegan eats meat.
Food Entitlement
Some narcissists have a set of unwritten rules they expect others to follow with their food. They may expect the largest portion. To be served first. And to eat at the exact same time every day.
Narcissists may also feel entitled to eat your food. Because in their mind, “What’s yours is theirs”. However, this never works the other way round!
If they do the cooking, then they may expect to be praised until the end of time for their magnificent meal. Even if it was something simple. And they may expect everyone to wait an age with baited breath, until they finally decide to wheel it out.
Food Superiority
Some narcissists use food to display their superiority. They may insist on eating the most expensive foods. Or dine at the most expensive restaurants. Deliberately turning their nose up at more regular food.
Narcissists may also use food to display their culinary knowledge. Or to subtly boast about their past experiences, or current wealth.
Narcissists may also criticise other peoples food choices or cooking. Just to elevate themselves above them. Remember, nothing’s good enough for the magnificent narcissist!
I’ve noticed that many narcissists like to eat something different to what everyone else is eating. Which in their mind elevates them above the “ordinary folk”. So they may deliberately try to go against the grain. And may sulk if someone joins them, and eats the same as them.
Food For Status
In a similar vein, grandiose narcissists may consume foods that are commonly seen as high status. Such as caviar, Champaign, lobster, etc. Regardless of whether they actually enjoy them!
Narcissists are often more focussed on appearance than reality. So they may pay through the nose for a meal they don’t really like, just to look good.
Of course when they do this, expect them to take pictures of their luxurious food. Then plaster them all over social media. Because to them it has no value unless everyone knows about it.
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Eating Disorders
Covert narcissists and borderlines in particular seem more susceptible to eating disorders. They may engage in restrictive eating patterns, binge eating, or yo-yo between the two.
They may even develop orthorexia, which is an unhealthy obsession with “clean” or healthy foods. Especially if they’re the type to regularly go to the gym.
Narcissist Feeders
Some narcissists deliberately try to make their partners look physically worse. So there’s less chance of them leaving. Some achieve this by becoming feeders. Particularly if they do the cooking.
They may pile huge portions on the plate, and get angry if you don’t finish it. Bully you to eat more. Or keep giving you “treats”. Even if you don’t want them.
Biased Perceptions Of Food
As you probably know, narcissist see reality as something to be negotiated. Rather than an objective truth. And this also applies to food.
Narcissists may convince themselves that wine is healthy, so it’s OK to drink 3 bottles. Or that fruit ciders give them their daily dose of vitamins.
They may hear about chocolate having health benefits. So eat 5 bars a day.
These biases can lead to them overindulging over long periods of time. Which can eventually lead to health problems.
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