The demise of a narcissist relationship is never easy. If the narcissist ended it, then it probably wasn’t with tact and sensitivity.
If you ended it, then it was probably after years of neglect and abuse. Which left you confused and disorientated.
After a narcissist relationship, many people fall into a depression of sorts. Because their mind and body is exhausted from years of coping with the narcissist. And they beat themselves up for putting up with them for so long.
Whilst you’re gathering yourself together, it’s likely the narcissist has already moved on. And this only adds to the pain.
In fact, the narcissist WANTS you to hurt. Because this validates them. So they may deliberately turn the screw.
The more pain you’re in, the more important the narcissist feels. Because to them, it shows how great they are.
In the narcissists mind, your pain is linked to their self worth. The greater your pain, the greater they must be. So if you want to win, you must move past the pain, and thrive.
Thriving after a narcissist relationship gives you a win on two levels. The most important being that you’re healthier, happier, and more successful. The second is because the narcissist sees this as a slap in the face! Because you’re supposed to be distraught without them.
So how do you thrive after a narcissist relationship? In this article I’ll share some of the things I did to bounce back after my narcissist marriage…
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Get Fit
It’s likely you didn’t spend much time on your health and well being during the narcissist relationship. Because narcissists divert most of your energy to them. Whilst giving little in return. But now you have time for more self care.
Find some exercise that you enjoy. It could be anything. Going to the gym. Swimming. Playing a sport. Walking. Or a combination of these things.
Don’t set unrealistic goals. Keep it simple and sustainable. And plan a regime you’ll stick to. It’s better to plan 3 half hour walks a week and stick to it. Than 2 hours a day in the gym, then quit after a month.
Exercise helps in many ways. Obviously your physical health improves. But so does your mental health. Because exercise releases feel good hormones into your body. Plus life feels more positive knowing your health is on the rise.
Getting in better shape also helps you look better. And believe me, the narcissist will notice. And they won’t like it. Because they want you sad and deteriorating, pining for their return. Rather than living a better life without them.
Eat Healthier
To add fuel to the fire (literally!), improve your diet. Eat more natural whole foods, such as meat, fish, vegetables, fruit, and nuts. And reduce your intake of processed foods.
Like exercise, this helps you mentally AND physically. And reduces symptoms of depression. And will make you look and feel better.
Learn To Do Things On Your Own
Never underestimate the value of doing things on your own. It’s vital for a happy and fulfilling life. Because you’re not dependant on anyone. So you can live your life on your terms.
Go for walks, visit the shops, and build up your confidence. It gets easier the more you do it.
Visit a café on your own. Go to a bar. Whatever floats your boat. No one bats an eyelid. Why would they?
We often think people watch and judge us more than they do. But in reality, most people are minding their own business, and focussing on themselves. Have you ever stopped and stared at someone in a café because they’re on their own?
Learn New Skills
Learning new skills it great for winning at life. Because it stimulates your mind. And increases your chances of success. It also gets you used to breaking through comfort zones.
New skills, such as writing or video making, can earn you extra income. A college course might enable an exciting new career. Learning a musical instrument might help you gain friends. The possibilities are endless!
New skills keep your mind sharp. And increases your lust for life. Because they open up opportunities. And are a great in themselves.
Hobbies
Most of your hobbies probably fell by the wayside during your narcissist relationship. But now you have chance to rekindle them. And find some new ones.
It’s likely you changed during your narcissist relationship. So some of your old hobbies may no longer resonate. But that’s OK, because there’s an unlimited choice of new ones.
Try things out and see what happens. Some things won’t float your boat. But you might unearth a hidden gem, that changes your life.
Meditate
Most people live in a constant state of flight or fight, when in a narcissist relationship. And this usually continues once they’re gone. Which may trigger anxiety.
Meditation is great for helping your mind and body relax and let go. And move past the worry of what you should be doing. Or what you did wrong.
You don’t need to spend hours in the lotus position, and contemplate the meaning of life. Just ten minute a day gives huge benefits. As it gives your mind and body a much needed rest.
If you want some help, please check out my free guided meditation session here – FREE GUIDED MEDITATION AUDIO
Final Thoughts
The world can seem daunting after a narcissist relationship. Because the narcissist has probably eroded your confidence. And got you out the habit of considering your own needs and wants. But you can get it all back.
The world is a place full of opportunity. With new things to discover, new places to visit, and new friends to make. You’re now free to explore, without the narcissist dragging you down.
You survived with the narcissist. Now it’s time to thrive!
Invest in your life and you’ll be rewarded with a happier and healthier you. And the icing on the cake is – the narcissist will be furious!
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