Virtue signalling is where someone publicly expresses their morals. With the aim of proving they’re a good person.

Narcissists are probably the biggest virtue signallers. This is because they want to be liked and admired. But they don’t want to put the effort into being virtuous. And they don’t want to make the sacrifices required.

Narcissists whole characters revolve around falsifying virtue. And maintaining a façade that’s more kind and empathetic than they really are.

Virtue signalling allows many narcissists to lead relatively normal lives. And blend in with neuro-typicals. Which is how they manage to maintain relationships, despite their poor treatment of others.

Spotting the difference between virtue signallers and people with honest intentions helps you weed out toxic people from your life. Allowing you to maintain your distance, and not get sucked in.

Here’s some of the common ways narcissists virtue signal…

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Self Labels

Many narcissists virtue signal by awarding themselves positive labels. They may call themselves an empath. A loyal friend. Woke. Successful. And so on.

Narcissists repeatedly drive these ideas home. And these repetitive assertions literally brain wash people into believing them. Even though they don’t confirm these qualities with their actions.

As Joseph Goebbels once said, “If you tell a lie big enough and keep repeating it, people will eventually come to believe it.”

Always bear in mind that just because someone says they’re something, it doesn’t make it so. In fact, if they keep saying it, that usually implies they’re not. Because if someone genuinely has a quality, they don’t need to keep mentioning it.

Watch how they act, instead of believing their words. Then make up your own mind. Why let someone tell you what to think?

Narcissists Social Media Virtue Signalling

You can often tell a narcissists social media profile, because it’s littered with virtue signalling. They may post about religion and spirituality. Links to charity organisations. And how they helped their Aunt Maggie… again.

Whilst many people post these things occasionally, most narcissists are borderline obsessed. And may post several times a day, in a desperate attempt to prove themselves.

Anyone comfortable in their own skin wouldn’t need to keep publicly displaying how caring they are. Because it would be ordinary and instinctual. And no big deal.

Narcissists Religious Virtue Signalling

Some narcissists use religion to virtue signal. They may regularly attend local religious institutions. And talk at length about their faith.

Some narcissists go as far as volunteering for fund raising, community get-togethers, choirs etc. And may even work in the clergy.

Religious narcissists see themselves as morally superior. And may look down their noises at non religious people. Which isn’t a very religious thing to do.

Narcissists may also use religion to bully and intimidate others. Telling them how they should be behaving. And they may interpret the religion in a way that’s beneficial to themselves, and detrimental to others.

Narcissists may also compete with other religious people. And fight for religious supremacy, by engaging in religious one-upmanship. Which shows their true motives for choosing religion.

Jobs

Some narcissists choose jobs that are associated with virtue. They may work in the medical or caring profession. Teaching. The armed forces. Or even the Police – although their virtuous reputation has diminished in recent years.

People often assume that they must be caring if they work in these jobs. And narcissists play on this. And because they like talking about themselves, they’re happy to speak for hours about how great they are at their job. And how much they’re doing it for the common good.

Until recently I worked in the care industry. And I noticed how the more lazy and narcissistic workers were the first to show off about working in care during the Covid pandemic. Whereas the more selfless and hard workers barely mentioned it.

Slip It In To Conversation

Some narcissists are masters at showing off, without appearing to show off. They may for example slip into conversation an amusing thing that happened on their way to the homeless shelter. Or how they slipped over whilst carrying their Mums shopping.

If a narcissist does a good deed, then they always want something in return. Even if it’s kudos. So they can’t resist telling people. And even if they don’t do a good deed, they’ll probably say they did anyway.

Fight For A Cause

Some narcissists virtue signal by fighting for a cause. They may fight for social justice. Concerns around the environment. Or issues at work. But they never do these things quietly.

Narcissists want as many eye balls as possible. Because it feeds their need for attention. And it gives them a big platform to display their “virtues”.

Narcissists often contradict the causes they fight for, with their actions. Especially when they think no one’s looking. Because they don’t really care. It’s just a means to an end.

Become A Vegetarian

Some narcissists virtue signal by becoming vegetarians. Because when they eat around others, they can make a big show of not eating meat. And convince everyone how caring they must be to make such a sacrifice. And being a vegetarian has other benefits…

Narcissists want to be special. And they like being given special treatment. Being a vegetarian ensures that people must make special considerations for them.

They may make a different meal for them. Or change everyone’s meal to cater for the narcissist. Which the narcissist laps up in delight!

Final Thoughts

Narcissists operate behind a false façade. And they spend more effort pretending to be virtuous than actually being virtuous. So they devise numerous ways to create the illusion. And sadly, many people fall for them.

If you meet someone who’s quick to tell you how virtuous they are, then it’s a red flag. Because someone with virtue doesn’t see the big deal. It’s normal and natural for them. And there’s no reason to show off.

If you meet a virtue signaller, watch how they act. Do their words and actions match? Do they consistently act in the virtuous way they claim, no matter who’s around? And when no one’s looking?

If they talk like someone who’s virtuous, but don’t live it, then they’re clearly not virtuous. And they’re probably hiding some dark traits. So if you value your peace of mind, keep these people at arms length.

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