Lots of literature on narcissists focuses on male narcissists. But in my life I’ve known several females narcissists. And I married one!
I’ve noticed many similarities between female narcissists. Here’s a run down of some common traits I’ve noticed of female narcissists. See if you’ve spotted any of these…
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Female Narcissists Harem Of Male Admirers
Most female narcissists have many male friends. Their male friends are usually nice, quiet, easy going people.
The female narcissist subtly flirts with them, but rarely does anything sexual with them. Instead they prefer to lead them on.
The female narcissist knows their male friends fancy her, but acts oblivious to this. Instead she leads them on. But doesn’t do anything with them, aside from the odd friendly hug and kiss. She knows this leaves them begging for more.
She knows they’ll crawl over broken glass for her attentions. And she uses this to her advantage.
She’ll play the damsel in distress to gain favours from them. And knows they’ll come running. She also uses them to triangulate and make her current boyfriend jealous.
The female narcissist often plays her harem of men against each other. She does this by showing off her latest gifts and nights out to the others. “Look what Paul bought me.” She does this to make them jealous. And to encourage competitive giving towards her.
Female Narcissists Like Younger Men
Not all, but many female narcissists seem to like younger men.
There’s a certain ego boost that comes with being admired by younger men. Plus younger men are more controllable than older, more experienced men.
The female narcissist often goads them by using phrases such as “man up”. This is designed to make them feel worthless, and not deserving of her fabulous self. Plus it encourages them do what they’re told. “A real man would come right now and change my tyre.”
Creates Reasons To Fall Out With You
Female narcissists create reasons to fall out with you. And they can be absurd, minor things they blow out of proportion. This isn’t down to sensitivity.
It’s a deliberate ploy. They like to create a “trauma bond” where they fall out with you, getting you walking on eggshells. Not sure what will trigger them next.
And when you’re walking on eggshells, this serves two purposes. First it proves to them how much you adore them. They bask in the glory of you desperately trying to please them. And second it makes you more controllable. Fearing their wrath, you do as your told.
Flit Around When On A Night Out
Narcissist females seem to flit around, talking to strangers or people they barely know for most of the night. They can be disinterested with their friends and even boyfriends they’re out with.
Female narcissists can’t resist attention from strangers. And they’ll happily leave you stood on your own whilst pursuing this.
Always Seem Ill Or Tired
I’ve noticed most female narcissists seem to almost always be ill, tired, feeling down etc. There’s always SOMETHING wrong with them.
Of course this is fabricated. It’s a pity play. It gets them out of their responsibilities. And gets you doing things for them.
Talks About Narcissism, Sociopaths, Empathy Etc.
Many female narcissists seem to read up on things related to narcissism. And have a fair knowledge of the subject.
They often accuse others of being narcissists. And call themselves “empaths”. But don’t use their knowledge for self reflection.
Always In Conflict
Female narcissists seem to always have some sort of conflict going on. And when it ends, a new one quickly follows.
It seems they thrive on drama. They don’t like peace and harmony.
And they’re always the victim. These conflicts are NEVER their fault.
Final Thoughts
Here’s just a few common traits I’ve noticed in female narcissists. Have you spotted any more? Please leave your thoughts in the comments bellow…
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Abaofukinglutely True…but you have put them nicely. I have seen a female who has ruined God knows how many men. Wrecked 100s of homes and seduced / blackmailed married men to have sex and beyond that abused her own growing son by giving a blowjob to her so called 60 years old boyfriend in front of him and then forced him too for putting his pants down.
When the kids were small she has locked them in a room while she was moaning with other men in the next room. Not enough she used to mix sleeping pills in their milk and put them to sleep to step out alone for lusty night-outs with strangers and come back home drunk in wee hours and shout and yell at the kids..
I am sorry my friend… you haven’t seen how cruel a female itching pussy can be who even doesn’t spare her own brothers, uncles or cousins who come over to her house and have sex with her.
Ok now I’m really concerned that this could be me! Do women narcissists have the same inflated ego, feelings of entitlement, shirking of responsibility etc? Sometimes men and women present symptoms differently. As I wrote in the other post I have issues revolving around self esteem so I thought there was no way I could be a narc but after reading this I’m not as sure…..Sorry for blowing up your comments!
It’s totally fine you commenting. And the fact you apologise shows you probably aren’t a narcissist! A sense of entitlement and lack of empathy are two of the 9 traits associated with narcissistic personality disorder. Also exploitative behaviour and a grandiose sense of self importance.
Obviously I can’t tell too much from online messages, but you certainly don’t come across as having these traits!