Comments on: Why Narcissists Don’t Give Straight Answers

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sat, 21 Mar 2020 19:51:25 +0000

In reply to Michelle. They can have you going round in circles for hours Michelle!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Sat, 21 Mar 2020 02:44:56 +0000

That Was really helpful thank you.. that pretty much answered the nonsense conversations, I just experienced whilst having a 3 hr car ride with my narc.

By: jim morrison

jim morrison — Tue, 17 Mar 2020 17:44:29 +0000

yes this is spot on my ex-brother was exactly like this, they also like to set up situations where they talk trash about you to other people then get you together with them and drop it on you like it is something that they have talked to you about to make you look bad and you have no idea of what is going on. ex-brother because i have divorced them and don’t even want to hear about it when he dies, he is already dead. talking to our mother she said he had always been mean and she was ashamed of how he had treated his two wives

By: Elle

Elle — Fri, 13 Mar 2020 10:13:28 +0000

Constitutionally in capable of being honest with themselves or others. Why? They know their personalities are not in tact. Disfigured. Stunted. Lack identity or ability to connect with others because they hide what they know is off. Don’t want others to see they have flaws. Welcome to the human condition. Flawed. But they decide to blame, shame, abuse, bully, self aggrandizement, superiority, entitled self centered, delusional paranoid and evil. They spend their lives ruining others who have something they want. But will never have. A soul. A conscience. Only pain. Loneliness. and dissatisfaction because that is an inside job not fueled by others but by ones own values, beliefs, faith, hope love and a spirit of giving. Not enabling someone else to decide who you are because they can’t be who they are. Expose them and be prepared to be smeared, murdered, or so traumatized you lose all ability to function. They are vindictive. So fuck them. Let them take responsibility for their lack of acceptance of self. Victims they are not. Predators they are. And the leopard never changes its spots. Learn to go no contact. Keep your peace.
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By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Wed, 11 Mar 2020 11:13:05 +0000

In reply to ksh.

They don’t necessarily make you a narcissist. Check out these common traits – http://narcissisms.com/common-traits-of-a-narcissist/

By: ksh

ksh — Wed, 11 Mar 2020 02:04:13 +0000

i do some of this and i am a scapegoat in a narc household. my defense is “you don’t care, why should i tell you?” hmm i think you should identify the nuances. i am vague and non-specific in my communication, i also like to be mysterious. i think it’s just how my mind works.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sat, 07 Mar 2020 14:04:53 +0000

In reply to Elisa. I experienced similar things Elisa. But I think some do know that things like this are wrong. They just don't care. If they cared, they would stop once you explained how upsetting it was. My ex thought it was perfectly fine for her to have male friends. But in no way should I have female friends!

By: Elisa

Elisa — Sat, 07 Mar 2020 13:23:55 +0000

He always said he never did anything wrong. If he chose to take another woman to an event and not me, it was acceptable in his mind, not thinking I was hurt by his actions. After telling me he loved me.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Thu, 05 Mar 2020 21:54:09 +0000

In reply to Connie Nelson. It takes a while to be able to trust after this sort of thing Connie. Maybe you will if you meet the right person.

By: Connie Nelson

Connie Nelson — Thu, 05 Mar 2020 21:49:30 +0000

In reply to JonRhodes. I was in a situation where 2 different people were working on my mind. And I don't think I am ever going to be able to fully trust anyone.