It’s common for narcissists to disturb peoples sleep. And there’s many ways they do this.
They might cause an argument, just before bedtime. Bang around early in the morning, or late at night. Or blatantly prod you until you wake. But hypocritically, they scream the house down if you tiptoe past and accidentally wake them.
Why are narcissists hell bent on keeping you awake? Is it deliberate? What’s going on? Here’s why narcissists disturb your sleep…
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Narcissists Need Attention
Most narcissists can’t go more than a few minutes without attention. So your sleep is a major inconvenience. Because you can’t give them attention when you’re sleeping.
Unsurprisingly, the narcissists needs come first. So their need for attention outweighs your need for sleep. So they have no qualms waking you, to extract what they want. It doesn’t matter how tired or busy you are.
Narcissists Think Of You As An Object
Narcissists commonly think of others as objects, rather than people. Like everyone are NPC’s in their story.
You wouldn’t have any qualms switching on your toaster at midnight, if you wanted toast. And in the same way, narcissists think nothing of waking you, if they need you.
Narcissists Lack Of Boundaries
The narcissists lack of empathy makes them struggle to appreciate others boundaries. Particularly if you’re close to them.
In the narcissists mind, you’re a part of them. So if they want something from you, they should have it. No matter what. However this energy changes when you want something from them!
The narcissist only sees their own wants and needs. So if they want you awake, they have no problem waking you. Because in their mind, you should wake to serve them. They don’t consider the inconvenience to you.
To Get You To Agree To Something
Narcissists know that you’re not thinking straight when you’re waking up. So if they want you to agree to something, they may wake you to “ask”.
You might be fooled into thinking they’re being impatient wanting an answer. But they know what they’re doing. They want you to agree to something you wouldn’t normally agree to. So they hope you mindlessly agree, as you wake from your slumbers.
Energy Games
Narcissists always want the upper hand in relationships. So they weaken their partners to give them an edge. Which is why they knock their self esteem. And criticise when they’re trying to better themselves.
Ruining your sleep weakens you. Because it puts you in a daze, and knocks the fight out of you. Which allows narcissists to more easily manipulate and control.
This is another reason why narcissists are fine waking you, but are livid when you wake them. They want to be in control, with energy in the bank. Whilst you’re a tired mindless zombie.
To Cause Drama
If the narcissist knows it winds you up, then they may wake you to create drama. As you probably know, most narcissists get bored easily. Especially when things are peaceful. So they look to spice things up with some drama.
Waking you may create immediate conflict, if you react. Giving the narcissist a quick fix of drama. Which gets their heart pumping, and warms their cold blood.
So you might think you’re doing yourself a favour by giving them a piece of your mind when you wake. And most people would. But it could be playing into their hands.
To Prove Themselves
To narcissists, almost everything is a competition. And some take pride in how little sleep they need.
However, if you’re asleep and they’re not, there’s no one to prove their superiority to. So they may wake you, just to show you that they’re awake. Crazy I know!
One trick I’ve seen narcissists do is hoover at unusual times. Such as early in the morning or late at night. This is the noisiest of all household chores. And also, they don’t have to do any actual work. Just sit there with the hoover running!
These narcissists often sleep more than they let on. So they may wake you as soon as they wake up. Claiming they’ve been awake for hours.
To Punish
Narcissists consider themselves the arbiters of right and wrong. With the authority to punish as they see fit.
However they’re extremely thin skinned. And seemingly innocent things can trigger their wrath. Causing them to punish for things most people consider trivial.
Narcissists often neglect to mention what hurt them. Or even that they’re dishing out a punishment. Probably because deep down they know they’re being unreasonable.
Instead they passive aggressively punish, to avoid rational discussion. So their unreasonable demands are not openly discussed.
One of the narcissists forms of punishment is disturbing sleep. So they may keep you up, in retaliation for something you supposedly did wrong. Even though you’ve no idea what you did. Or even that you’re being punished.
To Feel Powerful
Narcissists love feeling powerful. Which is why many are drawn to guns. Jobs with power. And people weaker than themselves.
Waking you up satisfies their lust for power. Because they instantly changed your conscious state. Just by making a noise, or turning on a light.
Some narcissists get a kick out of this. Which is why they may wake you for no apparent reason. They just want to exercise power over you. And waking you is one of the easiest ways to do this.
Final Thoughts
As with most things, narcissists have one rule for you, and another for themselves. So they’re allowed to wake you on a whim. But you’re not allowed to wake them. And they don’t see the hypocrisy in this.
Narcissists use sleep as a weapon to keep you under control. And their lack of empathy stops them caring your need for sleep anyway.
Sadly, when you’re in a narcissist relationship, they wear you down. Some of it deliberately, and some due to their selfishness. And this can go on for years, with no respite. Not even in your asleep.
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