Comments on: How Narcissists Set Traps

By: Just let me know

Just let me know — Tue, 14 Apr 2020 03:33:23 +0000

This is good information they are just like all the things I read and I mean all there playing with my life and actually making there sick ways some how mines I'm like no thank you even though I think about the sexual connection and that's sick too me but I have got around different people doing things with the best interest of others and it's cool I'm slowly but surely able to work on myself and build my confidence up and I'm meeting new people open to just liking me the way I am while he still wearing a mask and it's not even close to holloween

By: Desiree

Desiree — Thu, 09 Apr 2020 23:04:26 +0000

I know what you mean but what if you’ve known this person since you were both kids? This is the hard part. People are people and the heart wants what the heart wants, and what if you’ve both loved each other since you were kids and you’ve seen them in all these false relationships and you’ve seen every move they make because you know them. You see right through him?
I seem to have had a bit of a falling out and I’ve been hit so hard by allegations, lies, also he’s hacked me!!!! Told everyone that I did it! Tells ppl I did it cuz I’m obsessed with him! Truth is were both obsessed but I’m not the one hacking anybody!
He knows I know that he’s doing it
But he still tells ppl I’m doing it, it’s the most ridiculous situation I have ever been in! Nightmare cuz I used to respect him and look up to him. I used to put him on a pedastal….
Kind of sick that I still do kinda but only because I’ve loved him since I was a little girl.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Thu, 09 Apr 2020 16:44:24 +0000

In reply to Kay Bowden. I'm glad my article has helped you Kay. Unfortunately these things are quite common. I know it's hard when you're surrounded by their behaviours all the time. I also felt comfort when I found out it wasn't just me that experienced these things. It also helped removed that nagging doubt that maybe I was wrong in my perceptions.

By: Kay Bowden

Kay Bowden — Thu, 09 Apr 2020 16:26:02 +0000

I see myself being the recipient of all these behaviors you described. Thank you so much! There were/are times when I felt totally worthless and knowing intellectually that I do have value, but still letting his constant belittling get to me. After reading your article, I do feel much better; not just because I feel better after reading it, but also because I see someone else has been through these things, too and I’m not the only person who goes through this.

By: julie sahlberg

julie sahlberg — Sat, 04 Apr 2020 03:47:52 +0000

smart as they may be I refuse the WAR!

By: Terri

Terri — Mon, 30 Mar 2020 15:06:07 +0000

Thank you, Jon Rhodes. This is all I can say for now. Thank you.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sun, 29 Mar 2020 12:46:43 +0000

In reply to Trisha.

They’re difficult to detect if you’re not close to them. They put on an act to the outside world. It’s only those close to them that see the full extent of their narcissism.

Learning about narcissism is definitely a great idea for developing characters in fiction. Once you learn how they tick, you can create realistic motivation for many dramatic events!

By: Trisha

Trisha — Sun, 29 Mar 2020 11:42:23 +0000

In reply to JonRhodes.

Looks as if I’m learning! But I’d still feel wary of recognizing one. There have been a few people I’ve known that MIGHT have the disorder, but none of them were in my life as a permanent fixture and I wasn’t particularly close to any of them, so it’s not the same as living with such a person and really getting to know them. But all of those people definitely showed some very toxic traits. I’m just a layman who has an interest in psychology because it helps me to develop my fictional characters.

So if any narcissisists happen to be reading this, thank you for giving me such quality material!

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sat, 28 Mar 2020 08:10:36 +0000

In reply to Trisha. Sounds spot on to me Trisha! Yeh they like criticising others, particularly successful others. Like you say, it pushes the other person down so they don't feel as inadequate when faced with their success. Plus in their mind it lifts them up, being able to find fault with someone successful.

By: Trisha

Trisha — Sat, 28 Mar 2020 07:48:37 +0000

I’m guessing that the “Wait It Out” method is very likely to happen in the scenario that the narc is jealous of their target because of their success. Since success doesn’t happen easily, the target is likely to be highlyy intelligent, talented, productive and very diligent in performing their tasks and tend to make less mistakes. So the narc considers such a person as a threat because their consistently good performance in work and/or in life will show up the narc’s deficiencies in comparison and they want to stop that at all cost. Not to mention that proving to themselves that they’re able to bring such a strong, successful person down is like an injection of premium narcissistic supply!