Comments on: Why You Feel Lonely With A Narcissist

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sat, 25 Jul 2020 15:01:03 +0000

In reply to Brett Hackett. Yeh it's usually best to focus on yourself for a while Brett. You can'[t turn back the past, but you can make sure you enjoy your future! Hope it goes well for you.

By: Brett Hackett

Brett Hackett — Wed, 22 Jul 2020 18:39:32 +0000

One thing my narcissist does is when I bring up a topic like cheating, he goes over board denying it and then turns it around until I feel like a psycho bitch for even accusing him..,(GASLIGHTING is.the name for that tactic(
.and later I will see proof- I know I’m right because I pay attention to his unconcious communication-which changes when he thinks he is about to get laid.which shows how little respect he has for me, because if I was going fo cheat- there is NO WAY IN HELL he’d ever find out. I wouldn’t want to hurt his feelings- but after catching him ( trying to cheat)cheating 4 times THIS YEAR ALONE, I have finally left our 20 year marriage.
It sucks having someone’s back for so long and I know he doesn’t appreciate me- and maybe actually hates me a little….for loving him.
Being alone has to be better. I get asked out all the time. I’m not ready to date though.Letting go is hard and its even harder to forgive myself for wasting 20 years of my life

By: Eva

Eva — Sun, 19 Jul 2020 11:20:33 +0000

This describe exactly what I felt this strange loneliness and abbondment in my ex narc relation.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Fri, 17 Jul 2020 21:18:02 +0000

In reply to Angela. Thanks for your kind words Angela. My Dad used to do the whole walking ahead thing. Which meant he controlled the whole time out. What could have been a nice family day out, descended into running to keep up with him! I'm glad my articles help. I hope you find happiness soon.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Fri, 17 Jul 2020 21:14:03 +0000

In reply to Connie Nelson. I'm happy to help Connie. I know what it's like. It's difficult for those that haven't been through it to understand. Which is why I think it helps to hear other people's stories. Just so you know you're not alone. Even though it very much feels like that at times. I hope you find some comfort soon.

By: Angela

Angela — Fri, 17 Jul 2020 20:38:52 +0000

Thank you for your article about loneliness in a relationship. This applies to the relationship I have been in for 37 years with my partner who is likely on the autism spectrum with many narcissistic traits or tendencies. In his case he can’t even properly walk beside me either. This aspect of loneliness is especially difficult and befuddling. Like being lost in the desert and wasting precious time, walking toward a mirage of something that doesn’t exist and then realizing, there is no water. The relationship cannot grow or nourish and there is nothing on the horizon despite years of difficult travel. This is possibly one of the most difficult things to communicate to him as I attempt to escape this long empty road for a much needed drink of new life.
Thank you for your articles in general. They are well penned and very insightful.
Best wishes,
Angela

By: Connie Nelson

Connie Nelson — Fri, 17 Jul 2020 20:32:52 +0000

I am going through this and I totally understand the isolation from friends and family. I have never felt more alone than I do now. Thank you and God bless you for the incredible information you give