Comments on: Why Would A Narcissist Hide You? https://narcissisms.com/why-would-a-narcissist-hide-you/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=why-would-a-narcissist-hide-you A Blog About Narcissists And Narcissism! Fri, 12 Apr 2024 09:35:19 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: JonRhodes https://narcissisms.com/why-would-a-narcissist-hide-you/#comment-671 Wed, 23 Jun 2021 15:25:44 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=1023#comment-671 In reply to Tara More.

Thanks for your kind words Tara!

]]> By: Tara More https://narcissisms.com/why-would-a-narcissist-hide-you/#comment-670 Wed, 23 Jun 2021 14:56:55 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=1023#comment-670 This honestly is the best explanation I’ve ever read. Ever word is true from my own personal experience. Thank you kindly for taking the time to articulate this so clearly to help others.

]]> By: JonRhodes https://narcissisms.com/why-would-a-narcissist-hide-you/#comment-666 Sat, 12 Jun 2021 12:13:44 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=1023#comment-666 In reply to Maureen Keeler.

I think you were supposed to beg him to stay Maureen! Yeh, the anger will be his feelings of loss of control over you. And he’s trying to re-establish control over you by turning up with the same behaviour. Hopefully he’ll now realise it’s not worth the hassle trying to control you. Well done for making your stand!

]]> By: Maureen Keeler https://narcissisms.com/why-would-a-narcissist-hide-you/#comment-665 Sat, 12 Jun 2021 00:23:12 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=1023#comment-665 Everything you pointed out is so very true. Last narcissist had nothing good to say about his parents and sister. He introduced me to them early on to show me off perhaps. I was a catch really — (attractive, great career, lots of wonderful friends, and close relationships with family.
He wore his mask well and had explanations and stories to tell in the beginning. As time passed, now unemployed, and several health issues later that I was caregiver for, his mask began to crack and fall off. His reality and true character slowly became evident boosted by antidepressants, lots of pot, and finally, alcohol. He’d burned through a good portion of my retirement nest egg I’d set aside for travel, began isolating me from friends and family, had excuses for leaving early and not going with me to social functions, or he’d attend and say the gathering was “just the guys” only to find out later that wives and significant others, also friends of mine, were there. Hmm. Red flags were flying all around me.
I began reigning him in on spending (all my money, of course) and saying “no” to ridiculous, insensitive and disrespectful demands. When he said he was going to move out, I responded, “Okay, whatever.” Yes, I was done. Whoa. No surprise to you, I’m sure, and not to me now that I’ve become informed about narcissism. Anyway, he blew up, a toxic tantrum: vile language and name calling, and lots of broken stuff. I avoided interacting with him. Hours later fully under the influence of mind altering substances, the actual fear he may physically harm me (gun), I called the police. He had a previous record. They saw the damage, spoke to us separately, and away he went handcuffed and locked up for a month.
Two years later (last week), he appeared at my house with the same behavior, violating conditions of his probation. He’s back in jail. His current supply, an empathetic lady, and a couple remaining friends are trying to see who, what and how they can help him. I’ve had long visits with one of his friends who helped him last time and with his daughter. Had I known his history and mental deficiencies in the beginning, he never would have been a part of my life. Here’s hoping he will never reappear … end of story … ?

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