Comments on: Why Narcissists Love Funerals

By: Rachel Martel

Rachel Martel — Mon, 20 Apr 2020 11:28:44 +0000

I LOVE this. My ex partner was always going to funerals – without me, of course.
I always suspected he loved dressing up in a smart suit and black coat and circulating amongst the mourners, coming across as a terribly good chap etc. This confirms it.
He would tell me afterwards how many people were so pleased to see him there.
He even tried to come to funerals of people I knew and he didn’t! I declined his offers.

By: Jayne

Jayne — Wed, 15 Apr 2020 14:15:51 +0000

My narc loved funerals ..he used them like a reunion..when his mother passed the scene was insane all 3 siblings seeking sorrow for each 1 had more grief then the next….they were passing out..hysterical…it was an amazing show

By: Charlie Rutherford

Charlie Rutherford — Sun, 05 Apr 2020 04:45:32 +0000

Not to mention the opportunity to feed on all that human pain…

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sat, 04 Apr 2020 19:40:55 +0000

In reply to Willa. Some do anything to be centre of attention. I experienced something similar with my wedding. My narcissistic ex-mother-in-law tried her very best to cause an argument with the organisers. She wanted centre stage at her own daughters wedding! She kept calling it "my wedding" during the build up.

By: Willa

Willa — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 14:22:11 +0000

My “mother” (I use quotes because I no longer consider her my mother) anyway she loves funerals & she darn sure makes sure she is the center of attention. Here’s what she would do, you can add to your list if you like.
“Mother” always always has to be the main attraction, center of attention, and it never seemed to bother her what kind of attention. In fact the worse the better. She always makes a HUGE HUGE scene. From her not being able to ride in the deceased’s family car to not being able to carry her can of soda to the burial. You can ALWAYS count on dear old “momma” to be difficult, unreasonable & that’s just her warm up. Yelling & screaming ensue until she believes she has everyone’s attention. She then goes in for the big con, big ole crocodile tears. How could anyone be so awful to someone who is obviously grieving the MOST! Victim act gains sympathy attention. Daughters, spouse, her mother & father-humiliated. (Why? Because it was one or all of us that wronged her on her very special day). Yes, we all dread funerals in my family for this reason. Btw, you or whom ever will listen will always here about how mistreated she was at each funeral for the the rest of time. Recently my dad & I have implemented a no “pity party patty” allowed rule for our funerals. Seriously!!! We have arranged for entrances to be blocked & guards posted letting people in. A guard at the door in case she slithers past the first one & of course guards at the burial site. I realize this sounds extreme, but short of having her vehicle dismantled the night before, we could do worse.

Willa

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 13:20:33 +0000

In reply to Nikki. Unfortunately there's plenty of supply to be gained at a funeral.

By: Nikki

Nikki — Fri, 03 Apr 2020 00:08:14 +0000

Thank you fot6this topic. I have always had an inkling about my ex and how he gets when someone dies. It was used as an opportunity to Hoover me so many times. Once at one if his friend’s mother’s wakes, he sat right at the entry boohooing…I’m not trying to be insensitive and say he wasn’t sad, but you should have seen all people that comforted him. Also, years ago when we were mardued and had been separated for about 6 months without him even talking to me, one of his older cousins died and he asked if our sons and I would accompany him to the funeral. We ended up sitting on the side front pew looking like a “family” even though he had left me and had been a total jerk. He lapped up attention.

Every single time someone died, he claimed he couldn’t sleep and “needed” me..no matter if he was close to that person or not.

By: Jennifer winch

Jennifer winch — Sun, 29 Mar 2020 12:30:51 +0000

Hi,
Sad topic but found this accurate in my case. My mother attended her first cousins funeral in her best fur coat. We live in Australia it really wasn’t even very cold, at all. It was just ridiculous to see her in this huge puffy white fur coat- at a funeral. Totally absurd. Seemed to be enjoying the experience. As you said-being able to position her self to the centre of attention. Gave her cousin, who was obviously very alone and depressed ZERO attention when he was alive the read a eulogy at the funeral. Its only in retrospect I realized how ridiculous it all is.

By: Suzi Murray

Suzi Murray — Sun, 29 Mar 2020 09:12:48 +0000

Excellent succinct description of these heartless shallow types.