Comments on: Why Narcissists Flirt In Front Of Their Partners

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Mon, 25 Jan 2021 20:24:05 +0000

In reply to Susan. I promise, it gets easier with time. Hang in there!

By: Susan

Susan — Mon, 25 Jan 2021 20:19:54 +0000

In reply to JonRhodes. Thanks Jon. I’m trying my best to feel better.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Mon, 25 Jan 2021 15:03:07 +0000

In reply to Susan. Narcissists like to live in delusions of success, power, brilliance, beauty, or perfect love. It totally makes sense he was kidding himself that they all adore him. It's what narcissists do! I hope you're healing and recovering Susan.

By: Susan

Susan — Sun, 24 Jan 2021 12:57:14 +0000

My ex narc and I broke up 5 weeks ago. He is a nurse and has always had many female “friends”. I think they are friends in their minds, but in his mind, they are admirers. He was acting so strange this summer so upon looking in his phone I found inappropriate text messages between him and a female coworker. He was crossing boundaries with the language he was using and so was she. After telling him I found this, he told me I misinterpreted the texts and was blowing the entire thing out of proportion. He continued to call people from a private room upstairs in our house and never comment on who he was taking to. He would FaceTime random women from work and constantly text women I didn’t know. Always telling me to stop being so controlling. When I was just feeling so disrespected foe lack of transparency .

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sun, 10 Jan 2021 20:54:48 +0000

In reply to Rachel Martel. Wow, that was really good what you did. You was clear, and used total logic, and he couldn't really argue with it. I did a similar thing, but it wasn't quite as effective! My ex started talking about having more male friends. I said, yeh that's fine, as long as it's OK for me to have female friends. She then stated that it was different. I asked why. Her explanation was that the male is likely to fancy the female. So I shouldn't have female friends, but she was perfectly fine having female friends. Talk about hypocrisy!

By: Rachel Martel

Rachel Martel — Sun, 10 Jan 2021 20:42:36 +0000

My ex-partner used to talk about other women he knew and would flirt with others whenever we went out. But he really did NOT like it if I spoke to another man, even the waiter!
At first it used to upset me, then over time I realised it was because of his sad craving for constant admiration and validation, so I just used to ignore it. I knew it was because of the vulnerable side of the narcissistic personality and that he had to go home with me anyway, because he was staying at my house!
Then, one evening, we were all dressed up and ready to leave the house for an evening out and I stopped, looked him in the eye and said; ‘OK, if you want to chat up the waitress, or talk to the women at the next table, that is absolutely fine by me. But please be aware that I will then chat up the waiter and talk to the men standing at the bar. Because whatever you can do, I can do.’
He looked me in the eye, said nothing, but never flirted again. Sometimes, a dose of their own medicine is the best response.
Over time my love for him just died, like a flame slowly going out. And he realised. In the end I discarded him, not he me. He went absolutely berserk and I saw the ‘narcissistic rage’. I realise now that, deep down, he was terrified of feeling inadequate and not being admired / loved, which is what I had the nerve to do!
A few evenings ago, I watched ‘The Wife’, starring Glen Close. It can be found on Netflix, so do watch it if you can. I so empathised with the wife in the drama. But watch out for the ending!…