Comments on: What Do Narcissists Want From You?

By: Trisha

Trisha — Thu, 01 Oct 2020 12:25:48 +0000

In reply to Michael. That's very interesting, Michael. Saying that he "liked people but didn't need people" sounds like someone who is independent in a healthy way and won't compromise his values for the sake of being liked. It's good that you were able to see that he was actually a narcissist pretending to be the polar opposite of what he really was! I hope you didn't let him get too close to you before seeing the truth.

By: Michael

Michael — Thu, 24 Sep 2020 20:31:15 +0000

In reply to Trisha. A narc friend said he liked people but didn’t need people. Actually I realised after he said this a couple of time it was the other way round. He needed people but doesn’t like them.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Tue, 22 Sep 2020 13:47:49 +0000

In reply to Trisha. Yep, most narcissists need lots of attention!

By: Trisha

Trisha — Tue, 22 Sep 2020 12:57:58 +0000

Why am I not surprised to see that “Your attention” is number one on the list? There is one person I once knew who I suspected might be a Malignant Narc and the one characteristic I remember about her was that she wanted attention constantly. Some of the other items on the list were true of her as well; she delegated her tasks to others, talked about how her ex wasn’t giving her enough money, had multiple sexual partners according to some gossip I heard, and always had to have a crowd of hanger-ons around her. But the first thing I think of whenever I think of her is that she craved attention like every living thing needs oxygen.
Going down the list, I think that any person who has the job of giving the narc stability is the one who is worst off. Firstly, because those poor unfortunate souls have the narc in their lives for the long haul and they probably have a myriad other tasks too, such as giving them a place to stay, giving them money, cooking and cleaning for them and, of course, giving them attention. Lots and lots of attention.

By: Sharongood

Sharongood — Sun, 20 Sep 2020 23:14:06 +0000

I am about to leave, been giving him the silent treatment for two weeks, am now waiting for him to have a melt down as he has done so before when he feels he can’t handle a situation, he dosent,i do. I feel I have to remain strong, its the calm before the storm.