Comments on: The Strange Habits Of Narcissists

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Fri, 27 Mar 2020 13:43:52 +0000

In reply to Lisa. Thanks Lisa. I'm guessing if they know they can't out pace you, they go slow instead! Same happened with me. I was essentially homeless after leaving mine, yet I felt better. And many people commented how well I was looking!

By: Lisa

Lisa — Fri, 27 Mar 2020 12:51:36 +0000

This is astoundingly accurate!! Absolutely my 25 yr marriage except, he’d walk slower than me. Wherever we were, he’d walk methodically slower and then get angry and pick a fight because it was difficult for me to walk so slow.. we literally had couples almost twice our age pass us walking normally, so it was a deliberate control piece. Everything else you said, behaviors..absolutely in pointe, you’re an expert for sure. It took me 24 years to figure out it wasn’t me who needed to fix a marriage, and a year to break free. I was constantly criticized for the anxiety his behaviors triggered in me, and One month away from this inconsistency and I have zero anxiety.. and this is during a global pandemic, and I feel very grounded..the irony I find in that is huge!

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sat, 21 Mar 2020 19:50:51 +0000

In reply to Kimberlee D Thorne. Thanks Kimberlee. I think there's sometimes an element of them thinking they're above menial tasks such as personal hygiene!

By: Kimberlee D Thorne

Kimberlee D Thorne — Sat, 21 Mar 2020 01:13:50 +0000

Spot on! They are all this and more. My ex would pee in the sink, yet abandoned his hygeine completely. When his teeth starting falling out, he wanted ME to get him dentures, puh-leese!

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sat, 14 Mar 2020 07:36:02 +0000

In reply to Jennifer S Batterbee. EVERYTHING is a competition Jennifer!

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sat, 14 Mar 2020 07:35:27 +0000

In reply to Katrina. You're welcome Katrina!

By: Katrina

Katrina — Sat, 14 Mar 2020 00:13:37 +0000

Thank you. It’s important to be reminded of the ordeal of my relationship with my ex and how similar or dissimilar new people are.

By: Jennifer S Batterbee

Jennifer S Batterbee — Fri, 13 Mar 2020 23:08:47 +0000

My husband does all these things! The walking ahead one is always an opportunity to point how unfit I am and although the years my senior how rich and healthy he is compared to me. I have a dodgy heart and rheumatoid arthritis with a bit of fibro to and yeah, I struggle to walk. He really comes into his element on the rare occasion we walk somewhere together.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Fri, 13 Mar 2020 06:54:21 +0000

In reply to Valerie. It's amazing how many have such similar traits. It's good you no longer believe things are your fault. You must be much happier for it.

By: Valerie

Valerie — Fri, 13 Mar 2020 05:04:03 +0000

Wow! Did you happen to be raised by my mother? You seem to know her soooo well it’s scary. Seriously it’s taken me 40yrs and battling clinical depression and panic attacks to finally understand the shame I lived in to constantly get her attention and approval even suicide to understand all of this was never my fault, she has a problem and I am not who she says I am but who God says I am. My dad has been the perfect partner for her and was kind and loving and supportive always. Now that he’s old and sickly, she can’t handle him, calls him useless and berates him especially when he’s ill. She has said many times that he’s 69 about to be 70,he has lived life, SO IF HE Passes away it would be fine, cos he is so sick. I been no contact for 6 months now. Thanks for and I am happier. God bless all of us who had to endure this pain.