Comments on: Narcissists Random Accusations

By: Trisha

Trisha — Sat, 15 May 2021 12:47:02 +0000

In reply to Dre.

Interesting. My brother and I were discussing 1980’s slang (I was a teen in the 80’s and my brother was born in the middle of that decade) and being a “narc” in those days meant that you were a tattle-tale.
Since narcissists are known to do that, as well as lying, I wondered whether or not this correlation was merely a coincident. Then I found a source on Very Well Mind that stated that narcissist personality disorder was first officially recognized in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual Mental Disorders…in 1980.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Fri, 14 May 2021 10:14:47 +0000

In reply to Dre. Thanks Dre, I'm so glad what I do is helping!

By: Dre

Dre — Fri, 14 May 2021 01:42:44 +0000

In reply to JonRhodes.

Thank you.
And thank you for spreading great info here. When we were kids, or teens we were labeled as liers, but now, more and more when we speak openly with anybody, some say “that sounds like a narcissist!”. Your work is helping us to heal too.

By: Trisha

Trisha — Sun, 09 May 2021 23:54:34 +0000

In reply to Scarlett.

Wow…your post reminded me of a book I read, called “Kiss Mommy Goodbye” by Joy Fielding where the main protagonist, Donna, falls in love with and gets married to a man who turns out to be extremely controlling.
Out of many random reasons he uses to pick yet another fight, the most memorable one is the fight about the tomato sauce. She makes a dish for dinner (I think it was meatloaf) with tomato paste as one of the ingredients which her husband enjoys but when later on she makes the same dish again, there is no tomato paste in the pantry so she uses tomato sauce instead. The controlling husband takes this very personally, accusing her of changing anything that he likes and she responds by saying, “I can’t believe we’re fighting over the tomato sauce!”
You were probably thinking, “I can’t believe we’re fighting over the bath mat!”
I’ve known some toxic people in my time and found out for myself how draining they can be and how they insidiously wear you down. That’s why I’ve vowed that I won’t ever let anyone like that in my personal life or, God forbid my home.
But I’ve read enough on this blog to realize that I do have some traits that could make me a target for a narcissist so maybe, further down the track, you’ll have good reason to say to me, “Famous last words”.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Fri, 07 May 2021 12:31:39 +0000

In reply to Dre. Sorry to hear that. I truly believe a large percentage of the world's problems stem from narcissism.

By: Dre

Dre — Fri, 07 May 2021 04:37:20 +0000

Son of a Covert Narcissistic mother here. In 32 years of life I’ve been accused of the most ridiculous things, to the most dangerous, like stealing money from her, or her smearing making me lose houses, jobs, etc. Accused and smeared my sister 19 Yo that time, of prostitution while she was on a two weeks vacation, first time she could leave our parents home. On her return lost her job and the place where she was living.
Now (because n. mother and my dad were living under my roof and can’t sack me of my own house or making me sell and give her the money) she left one day and ten days later we woke up one day to the police escorting us to a hearing for domestic violence. Narcissist personality disorder is not a thing to brush out, or equate to cliché traits, it only gets worse.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Thu, 06 May 2021 21:18:51 +0000

In reply to Scarlett. I know Scarlett. It's very draining. Especially over months or years. Thanks, glad you liked the article!

By: Scarlett

Scarlett — Thu, 06 May 2021 20:28:34 +0000

This is a great article. Thank you. I understand the grinding one into the ground you just give up then they have one. The accusation came because the Bath mat has fallen off the bath, I hadn’t noticed as I was exhausted from an earlier controlling episode. He accused me of knocking it off the bath just to annoy him. I had no clue what he was talking about, he then accused me of doing it on purpose and I was faking not admitting to it. He wouldn’t say sorry for wrongly accusing me. But this continued through the night. Until I hit the tears then he put up the volume on the TV so he couldn’t hear me then huffed and puffed I was still sniffling. It’s bloody exhausting. All that for the need of power and control and attention.