Comments on: Narcissists And Their Love-Hate Relationships

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Sun, 22 Nov 2020 12:16:00 +0000

In reply to Astraea. Glad you're happy now Astaea!

By: Astraea

Astraea — Sat, 21 Nov 2020 15:35:20 +0000

I just broke it off for good with a raging narcissist BUT he was not as described above. He was extremely charming, well read, intelligent and many positive qualities. Friends liked him but always talking about himself and his exploits, never, ever asking a single question about me in the year we dated. When I suffered a very bad fall and I didn’t know if I needed surgery, his response was to tell he how he was suffering from a really bad cold. Many many more examples. My fault for thinking he would come around. Good riddance!

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Mon, 09 Nov 2020 16:54:35 +0000

Sorry to hear your story Jessica. Many narcissists have a fear of intimacy, because it can leave them vulnerable. So they often do things to get in the way.

By: Trisha

Trisha — Mon, 09 Nov 2020 16:36:12 +0000

In reply to JonRhodes. There have been times when I've cut people off for something minor which just happened to be the last straw. But judging from one of your older posts, a skilled narcissist would be better able to keep from crossing that line. I hope to never encounter one of those because that would mean wasting too much time on them when I could have been enjoying life.

By: JonRhodes

JonRhodes — Mon, 09 Nov 2020 10:48:27 +0000

In reply to Trisha. I think it depends on what caused the fall out in the first place. If it's falling out with people over relatively minor stuff, and never forgiving, then I'd say this was an unhelpful trait to have. If someone does something particularly bad, or a series of things, then it's fair enough to dig your heels in. I've learned the hard way not to endlessly forgive any more.

By: Trisha

Trisha — Mon, 09 Nov 2020 00:52:07 +0000

Woah, I’ve always been told that my difficulty in forgiving anyone who’s done me wrong is my worst fault but at least it means I’m (somewhat) neurotypical. Cross that certain line in the sand and I’m done…permanently. If it’s not possible to go completely non-contact, I’ll keep any interactions with them to the bare minimum. But I’ve noticed that there are a few people who will refuse to accept that and keep trying to contact me. I wonder if that would be narcissistic behavior, or merely some who’s excessively needy?