Comments on: How Narcissists Make You Their Carer https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-make-you-their-carer/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-narcissists-make-you-their-carer A Blog About Narcissists And Narcissism! Fri, 12 Apr 2024 11:05:16 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 By: Trisha https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-make-you-their-carer/#comment-631 Thu, 22 Apr 2021 23:00:50 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=919#comment-631 In reply to JonRhodes.

It’s okay in certain circumstances, if a friend or partner is going through a big challenge and needs extra care….except when it becomes a habit and they start trying to guilt-trip you into doing more and more for them.

The person I was thinking of had a strategy of “collecting” friends so that if one of them got fed-up or simply burnt-out, they’d have plenty of others in their circle of friends to fill the void. And if anyone didn’t allowed to be sucked in, they could expect an argument…in front of everyone. But giving in would have made me even more drained in the long term.

]]> By: JonRhodes https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-make-you-their-carer/#comment-630 Thu, 22 Apr 2021 20:51:07 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=919#comment-630 In reply to Trisha.

Yep, and if they get their way, you end up caring about them more than yourself!

]]> By: Trisha https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-make-you-their-carer/#comment-629 Sun, 18 Apr 2021 14:50:00 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=919#comment-629 Hah! I can see why you put a link to one of your previous articles, “Why Your Health Deteriorates Around A Narcissist” at the end of this article. When you’ve been sucked in to become the narcissist’s carer, that’s when your health begins to deteriorate…and they don’t care, as long as they have a replacement lined up.

If one of those shifty characters tries to recruit me into that role, I might just ask, “What did your previous slave die of?”

]]> By: JonRhodes https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-make-you-their-carer/#comment-628 Mon, 12 Apr 2021 08:54:04 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=919#comment-628 In reply to Rachel.

Sometimes narcissists deliberately target the most inconvenient times. Like they want to cause the maximum disruption. This puts them more in the spotlight, because more people are inconvenienced.

Their “illnesses” may also flair up when someone else is ill, soon after. This is their way of re-establishing themselves as the poor victim. They literally get “ill” to take the spotlight back.

]]> By: JonRhodes https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-make-you-their-carer/#comment-627 Mon, 12 Apr 2021 08:48:58 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=919#comment-627 In reply to Maureen Keeler.

Yeh, they keep people on a hook by showing glimpses that things will be different “soon”. But of course that time never arrives!

]]> By: Rachel https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-make-you-their-carer/#comment-625 Sun, 11 Apr 2021 12:59:13 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=919#comment-625 I know this . Never ending and actually self induced ( munchausens syndrome) too . Invisible illnesses/ injuries / pain that miraculously disappeared after scan as of course they would come back normal . Knew they would hence never followed it up . Dental issues where I had to go because of pity party 101. Sat there shaking with pretend anxiety as had been victim of so many horrible people . When in fact they were the horrible one . Even when I had to go through a highly unpleasant prep before a procedure they had that too ( actually again given it to themselves ) always poor me , love me , save me . But was the nastiest most evil human I had ever come across . The smear campaign was beyond horrific . Literally accused me if everything they had done to me .
Utterly selfish . And no scan etc etc ever came back as abnormal . Soon as they were in A & E with all the drama that went with that after bloods etc etc wanted to leave ASAP. This is true folks . I actually am unwell . And have many afflictions WITH evidence to back it up . Never again . Only thing that is wrong with them is having a personality disorder. Even the psychiatric community is split over whether they can be classed as mentally ill or not .
It’s always at the most inconvenient times of when my own children needed something doing . Why I got discarded in cycles . I put kids first

]]> By: Maureen Keeler https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-make-you-their-carer/#comment-624 Sun, 11 Apr 2021 07:59:18 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=919#comment-624 This describes my last relationship to a tee. So many afflictions, procedures, doctor appointments (most at least a three-hour round trip), for years. After 7-1/2 years, I hoped maybe I’d carried him through to a point where he’d be able to share life again, help a bit, be a partner. Nope, he cried “fibromyalsia”, among a host of other things, became a pot head, sat in a chair stoned all day and watched me continue to be responsible for and do everything. When he realized I became wise to his phony act, didn’t care anymore and was done, he melted down in a stoned drunk and was taken away in handcuffs. It’s taken two years for me to restore my retirement funds. He’s found a new supply. Unbelievable. Friends have tried to warn her, but she’s not listening.

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