https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-convince-us-they-care/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-narcissists-convince-us-they-care A Blog About Narcissists And Narcissism! Mon, 15 Apr 2024 14:14:49 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.5.2 https://narcissisms.com/how-narcissists-convince-us-they-care/#comment-460 Sat, 22 Aug 2020 12:44:24 +0000 http://narcissisms.com/?p=418#comment-460 I’m not sure that all neuro-typicals would know just what to do if you told them your pet just died. Or perhaps that’s a sign that I’m not actually a neuro-typical. I’d definitely feel sympathy if someone told me that their cat died, and remembering all the family pets who’ve long since passed would bring back my own pain as if it had just happened yesterday. Even when a colleague of mine, M____, told us all that about her pet bird’s demise, even though I’m not particularly fond of birds.
But…I’m very awkward when it comes to comforting people. Hugging just doesn’t come naturally to me. The best I can do is say something like, “I’m sorry for your loss”, while wishing I could have done better. Because M____ had been very caring and understanding when my darling Sam passed away from cancer. Not everyone felt for her because her pet was a bird and I felt guilty because I’d received a bunch of flowers with a card, hugs and condolences galore, especially from other dog-lovers.
When I care the most, it’s more difficult for me to show I care which makes me seem the most cold and distant because…(damn it!) I don’t know what to say. And if I love your company and want to be around you, don’t hold your breath waiting for me to tell you. I’ll assume that you should already know that because I’m still around.

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